Wearing a masque isn’t pretending—it’s precision. You borrow a response style that fits the room while your values keep the steering lock engaged. The kit below gives you a compact way to define a persona, step into it, act, and step out—leaving no residue of self-betrayal.
Persona Spec Sheet
Three adjectives. Three boundaries. Entry/exit phrase. A one-liner of purpose. Keep it short so you can actually use it.
Your mask
Boundaries
Example spec (click to expand)
Name: The Calm Operator
Adjectives: calm · candid · prepared
Purpose: Maintain clarity and kindness under pressure; land one decisive next action.
Boundaries: No deception. No contempt. No overpromising.
Entry: Close laptop tabs, set timer, whisper “steady & clear.” Exit: 3-minute walk; write “What I did. What I learned.”
Entry & Exit Rituals
Rituals are toggles for attention. Keep them tiny, physical, and repeatable.
- Entry (30–60s): Close loops (tabs, chat), set a timer, say the cue phrase, and write one target outcome for this block.
- Exit (2–3m): Stop on time, jot the artifact & next action, run a short state reset (stand, breathe, water, walk).
- Shutdown (end of day): One-line summary → “Done. Risks. Next.” Then take the mask off on purpose.
The Micro-Loop (live in 30-second cycles)
Notice → Name → Choose → Act → Check. That’s it.
- Notice: Breath, body, room. What is actually happening?
- Name: “Time pressure,” “decision fog,” “ego spike,” “confusion.” Labels shrink noise.
- Choose: Ask, “What would this mask do?” Pick one sentence or move.
- Act: Deliver clearly. Short, specific, kind.
- Check: Did it help? If not, adjust and keep rolling.
Guardrails (so you stay you)
Three Gates
Signals you’re drifting
Two-Week Practice Plan
Fifteen minutes a day. Small reps, quick notes, compounding fit.
Week 1 — Fit & Feel
Week 2 — Utility & Range
Templates & Phrasebook
Print the desk card. Steal the scripts. Make progress legible.
Persona Desk Card (print this)
____________________________
Adjectives
__________ · __________ · __________
Purpose
_____________________________________
1) _______________________________
2) _______________________________
3) _______________________________
Entry
____________________________
Exit
____________________________
Notice → Name → Choose → Act → Check
Go-to Phrases
• “Here’s the next concrete step…”
• “What outcome do we want by today?”
• “Let’s time-box this to 10 minutes.”
• “I can’t commit to that—here’s what I can do.”
Decision Note (artifact pattern)
Decision: ______________________ Context: one sentence Options: A / B / C Why: chosen because… Risks: top 1–2, with owners Next: one concrete step + date
Meeting Openers (persona voice)
“Here’s our target for this block: _______. If we drift, I’ll call it.” “Two options surfaced. I favor __ because __. Objections in two minutes?” “Let’s write the next action before we leave: who / what / when.”
Polite Boundaries
“I can’t do that honestly; here’s a realistic alternative.” “I won’t speak to them without them present. Let’s invite them.” “I don’t have the data yet. I’ll return by 3pm with a recommendation.”
FAQ
Isn’t this manipulative?
It’s disciplined empathy. You’re choosing a response style that serves the work and the people—inside non-negotiable values. If it crosses your values gate, it’s not the Masque; it’s theater. Don’t do theater.
What if the mask feels fake?
Reduce volume by 20%, increase listening by 50%, and swap one adjective. The right mask feels like posture, not costume.
How do I know it’s working?
You end blocks with artifacts, tensions de-escalate, and you feel spent but intact when you exit. That last part matters most.